I have to play catch up on this edition of my Blog. I’m preparing to leave the island once again to return to Germany where I will attend the wedding of Judith and Daniel, the daughter of my dear friends, Annette and Claus. But, I need to wrap up things with my Blog as, unlike last year, I doubt I’ll be able to handle blog submissions from Europe. I will not take a computer and, therefore, will not have the luxury of sitting in my room in the evening writing up my experiences. I am anxiously looking forward to my trip and to visiting with friends and family during my short stay over in the States on the way to and from Germany. I hope to have a lot to report on when I return, especially the wedding in Künzelsau. So, with that, here goes.......
July was a month that brought wonderful parties: the wedding on Clark Cay (covered by an earlier blog) and the 4th of July party at Wilmont Bay. Unfortunately there was bad news too.
July 13, 2010 Wanda DeLisa, Age 77, died from the results of emphysema in her home at Savannah Bight, Guanaja, Isla de la Bahia, Honduras. She and her husband, Bill (Age 81), lived on the island for 25 of their 26 married years. Both had children by previous marriages.
Wanda had, in the past several years suffered from two hip injuries resulting in the replacement of both hips. In the past few years she suffered from emphysema and it was this that took her to the hospital on the Mainland 5 days before her death. She was a heavy smoker and for years chose not to forego this habit to relieve her condition.
We recently saw Bill and Wanda on the coast in late March when we went over to La Ceiba to renew our residency. Bill and Wanda came into the Immigration office after we had been there for a while. Wanda, who was now walking with the aid of a walker, sat silently not saying very much. Bill was having some difficulties with the renewal process and, unfortunately, had failed to bring the proper documentation to renew their cards. We chatted briefly with Bill and left him to his helper while we finished our paperwork. We did not see them again.
Bill and Wanda lived in a house on the Northeast End high up in the hills. Getting to their house, I understand, is quite a task as the approach to the house was simply a winding path cut out of the mountain. Bill and Wanda were spry for their age but Bill did most of the shopping in Savannah Bight and made most of the trips to the Cay alone when it was necessary to go there for items they could not find close to home. Thus, our encounters with Bill and Wanda were infrequent at best. I think in our 13 years here we saw Wanda maybe a total of 10 times; 4 of those on the Mainland, usually at the airport. We have never been to their home as 1) it is quite a distance from our end of the island, 2) for years there was no line of communication to their house from ours and 3) because of the lack of communication we never knew when they would be home and certainly would not just “drop” in. So, we had a passing acquaintance. However, news on the island travels fast and we heard of Wanda’s accidents and the occasional comings and goings of the couple.
Evidentially Wanda’s emphysema worsened and Bill took her to the hospital in La Ceiba on July 8th. Wanda spent 4 days in the hospital. She was considerably weaken by her inability to breathe properly. Finally, the doctor told Bill there was not much more they could do for her. Bill asked Wanda if she wanted to go home and she replied “yes” as she did not want to spend her last days in the hospital. Bill arranged for a charter plane to take them back to the island on Monday the 12th. Wanda was flown home and literally carried up the hill where she died Tuesday evening. We were advised of her demise by friends who live near Savannah Bight and learned that the funeral would be the very next day.
When we arrived in Savannah Bight the found Wanda was laid out in the back bedroom in the home of friends of theirs. She had been dressed in a purple dress and the women who prepared her for her coffin had taken great pains to see that she looked her best. It was odd to see Wanda in a dress as, generally, in our “sightings” of her and Bill she always wore pants and a top! The women of Savannah Bight evidentially decided she needed to be buried looking her best. Poor Wanda was terribly thin after her ordeal and may have weighed less than 85 lbs. Since most of the men were up at the graveyard digging the grave, there had been no one to put her in the casket. Several young men did arrive finally and without any litany held at the house, she was laid in the casket while the mourners looked on. Her casket was loaded onto the back of a truck and we all walked behind it to the cemetery. Bill was very bereaved and, thankfully, had friends to support him on the walk.
Upon arrival at the grave, we found the workers were still digging. The ground around Savannah Bight is very rocky and digging a grave is an all day ordeal. The women who had prepared Wanda for her casket, said a few words and then sung hymns during the lowering of the casket into the grave.
I think the most awful sound to my ears that day would be that of hard clumps of dirt hitting the casket. It is heart wrenching to hear and I felt so bad for Bill as we all, as the custom here is to stay until the grave is filled. These sounds rained down on our ears and was almost unbearable. Various men took turns filling in the grave and, at one point, just to keep busy and, I think, to be part of his wife’s final moments, he too took up a shovel and assisted.
The singing went on during the whole time (about 45 minutes) and the women stayed true by waiting until the grave site was filled and all the flowers were in place before departing.
Generally, on the island, people are put on “ice” at the local fish plant until the time of the funeral. I will not go into detail as to the condition of the bodies during this period, even if for only one day or several. Suffice it to say that death here is most unpleasant and one is witness to things I would never have seen in the States. Out of respect for the dead, I will not elaborate upon those things here. Fortunately, the people of this island treat the departed with a great deal of respect and do the best that they can and, for the most part, do a good job.
Our condolences go out to Bill. I know it will be hard for him to live alone now, especially since he and Wanda had spent the majority of their time in each other’s company. I only hope that he can find peace and happiness in his remaining years and that, with the aid of friends in the community, he will find be able to cope.
Life goes on, as they say and we now have seen summer visitors return to the island: Dick and Jennifer with their sons and their respective girlfriends, Joan and David, Bill and Martha, Chris and Laura, and family visitors spending time with Bonnie and Bob, and many others. We enjoy it when people return to the island as it gives us the opportunity to catch up on what has been going on in their lives or to meet new people and hear about their experiences.
So, to those I leave behind, temporarily, I wish you good weather in August and September and I’ll be back blogging, hopefully, with renewed freshness!
Wanda had, in the past several years suffered from two hip injuries resulting in the replacement of both hips. In the past few years she suffered from emphysema and it was this that took her to the hospital on the Mainland 5 days before her death. She was a heavy smoker and for years chose not to forego this habit to relieve her condition.
We recently saw Bill and Wanda on the coast in late March when we went over to La Ceiba to renew our residency. Bill and Wanda came into the Immigration office after we had been there for a while. Wanda, who was now walking with the aid of a walker, sat silently not saying very much. Bill was having some difficulties with the renewal process and, unfortunately, had failed to bring the proper documentation to renew their cards. We chatted briefly with Bill and left him to his helper while we finished our paperwork. We did not see them again.
Bill and Wanda lived in a house on the Northeast End high up in the hills. Getting to their house, I understand, is quite a task as the approach to the house was simply a winding path cut out of the mountain. Bill and Wanda were spry for their age but Bill did most of the shopping in Savannah Bight and made most of the trips to the Cay alone when it was necessary to go there for items they could not find close to home. Thus, our encounters with Bill and Wanda were infrequent at best. I think in our 13 years here we saw Wanda maybe a total of 10 times; 4 of those on the Mainland, usually at the airport. We have never been to their home as 1) it is quite a distance from our end of the island, 2) for years there was no line of communication to their house from ours and 3) because of the lack of communication we never knew when they would be home and certainly would not just “drop” in. So, we had a passing acquaintance. However, news on the island travels fast and we heard of Wanda’s accidents and the occasional comings and goings of the couple.
Evidentially Wanda’s emphysema worsened and Bill took her to the hospital in La Ceiba on July 8th. Wanda spent 4 days in the hospital. She was considerably weaken by her inability to breathe properly. Finally, the doctor told Bill there was not much more they could do for her. Bill asked Wanda if she wanted to go home and she replied “yes” as she did not want to spend her last days in the hospital. Bill arranged for a charter plane to take them back to the island on Monday the 12th. Wanda was flown home and literally carried up the hill where she died Tuesday evening. We were advised of her demise by friends who live near Savannah Bight and learned that the funeral would be the very next day.
When we arrived in Savannah Bight the found Wanda was laid out in the back bedroom in the home of friends of theirs. She had been dressed in a purple dress and the women who prepared her for her coffin had taken great pains to see that she looked her best. It was odd to see Wanda in a dress as, generally, in our “sightings” of her and Bill she always wore pants and a top! The women of Savannah Bight evidentially decided she needed to be buried looking her best. Poor Wanda was terribly thin after her ordeal and may have weighed less than 85 lbs. Since most of the men were up at the graveyard digging the grave, there had been no one to put her in the casket. Several young men did arrive finally and without any litany held at the house, she was laid in the casket while the mourners looked on. Her casket was loaded onto the back of a truck and we all walked behind it to the cemetery. Bill was very bereaved and, thankfully, had friends to support him on the walk.
Upon arrival at the grave, we found the workers were still digging. The ground around Savannah Bight is very rocky and digging a grave is an all day ordeal. The women who had prepared Wanda for her casket, said a few words and then sung hymns during the lowering of the casket into the grave.
I think the most awful sound to my ears that day would be that of hard clumps of dirt hitting the casket. It is heart wrenching to hear and I felt so bad for Bill as we all, as the custom here is to stay until the grave is filled. These sounds rained down on our ears and was almost unbearable. Various men took turns filling in the grave and, at one point, just to keep busy and, I think, to be part of his wife’s final moments, he too took up a shovel and assisted.
The singing went on during the whole time (about 45 minutes) and the women stayed true by waiting until the grave site was filled and all the flowers were in place before departing.
Generally, on the island, people are put on “ice” at the local fish plant until the time of the funeral. I will not go into detail as to the condition of the bodies during this period, even if for only one day or several. Suffice it to say that death here is most unpleasant and one is witness to things I would never have seen in the States. Out of respect for the dead, I will not elaborate upon those things here. Fortunately, the people of this island treat the departed with a great deal of respect and do the best that they can and, for the most part, do a good job.
Our condolences go out to Bill. I know it will be hard for him to live alone now, especially since he and Wanda had spent the majority of their time in each other’s company. I only hope that he can find peace and happiness in his remaining years and that, with the aid of friends in the community, he will find be able to cope.
Life goes on, as they say and we now have seen summer visitors return to the island: Dick and Jennifer with their sons and their respective girlfriends, Joan and David, Bill and Martha, Chris and Laura, and family visitors spending time with Bonnie and Bob, and many others. We enjoy it when people return to the island as it gives us the opportunity to catch up on what has been going on in their lives or to meet new people and hear about their experiences.
So, to those I leave behind, temporarily, I wish you good weather in August and September and I’ll be back blogging, hopefully, with renewed freshness!
My Great Uncle used to always say that whenever there's a wedding... there's a funeral.
ReplyDeleteVery touching post. I may be wrong, but, somehow I think Wanda would have wanted it that way, pure and simple. I thinking that's why she lived where she did in the first place. Maybe not.
I enjoyed and lived vicariously through you, checking out your photos, during your last trip to Europe.
I'll look forward to your return and photos of this trip.
Best to the happy couple and safe travels to you.
kman